Holding on and letting go

The moon is high in the sky.  She’s full.  Her cycle is in cancer and this is what she has to teach us…

We have no control over what flips our emotional switches on. But once lit, our feelings carry potent lessons if we know how to learn from them. Once lit, our emotions can lead us back to the wounds we originally incurred if we know how to track them. Once lit, our senses can send us the information we have been too busy avoiding for fear of having to re-live the pain we try so desperately to escape.

But, the only way out is through.  ~ Chani Nicholas

This is an art.  To feel.  To feel fully and to not attach.  To live.  To live fully and to not attach.  To learn the lessons, to gain the experience, to attain the wisdom, and to not attach.

What is it that keeps us holding on to some things while freely letting go of others.  And I’m not talking about people, things or relationships here.  I’m talking about memories, beliefs, ideas and old wounds.  What is it that allows some things to happen and pass over us like water over stone, and others to bury themselves so deeply within.

Michael Singer, author of the Untethered Soul would say it’s our ego.  That anything that arises that threatens our ego, that challenges our sense of self, that triggers us in some way – that these are the things we hold on to.  And we hold on to them in our bodies.  As samskaras, as imprints.  This holding on becomes entrapment.  Unable to move forward, to move freely due to the weight of the past.

These imprints are often buried in with some feeling of discomfort or pain.  Over time we are faced with opportunities to release these old hurts.  A memory will come up, a shortness of breath perhaps at the mention of a name or a certain scent, and in that moment we have a choice – to hold on.  Or to let go.  Often, because the imprints have been impressed upon us with this discomfort, there will be some discomfort present as the old wound presents itself which is why it’s so much more attractive to just bury it back down where it came from, not  having to feel all that pain again.  When we do that, we’ve missed out on an opportunity for growth.

Try this: the next time an old wound comes up, see it.  And you may even verbally recognize this ” I see you”.  Allow yourself to feel the emotions that come along with this imprint; the shame, the sadness the fear, whatever it is allow yourself to feel it fully.  And then move it through your body.  Run it off, punch it out, shake it through.  Because these imprints are in the physical layer of the body there needs to be some sort of physical movement to really free them off.

Say a prayer of thanks.  Being thankful for the lessons you learned through the experience.

Say a prayer of forgiveness.  Forgiving any hurt that you may have felt and asking for forgiveness for any hurt you may have caused.

…”the only way out is through.”



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    January 20, 2017 at 11:38 am

    Thanks, great article.

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      Shawna Turner
      January 22, 2017 at 11:25 am

      Thanks for reading :)

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    August 4, 2017 at 4:17 am

    Meditating on and incorporating the throat chakra s color, blue, into your life can also calm emotional upheaval.

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